Romance - Be Warned!

Then on to Thailand many years later and this short exchange on a well known Thai Internet dating site:

Hi Oi:
Perhaps I should add one more thing.
I'm who I am. Not rich but caring. My heart is very precious and is not easily won. Why? Because if I ever find a true soul mate and lover it will be a person who feels exactly the same as I do about this and who is who she is without compromise.
My friendship is out there for anyone who is interesting and shares my values and ideals.
Look forward to chatting and maybe meeting up.
Kindest Regards,
Jeremy

Hello Jeremy,
I've taken some time to think about what you wrote, and I think it would be better to leave it.
You know Jeremy, even though you've been here sometime, I really don't think you understand Thai people or their culture. Life is very hard here which you have seen, it's not really all about, "I love you"! Ordinary people don't have time for heart and romance, there's not much romance in the village when your kids are crying and hungry and you have nothing to give them. It's really more about taking care and providing. We're not a romantic race like western people, we're more realistic. If a woman stays with you it's because you provide for her and family and she loves you, she doesn't have to tell you every five minutes like in the movies. I'm not saying it's right or this is how it should be, I'm just saying that's the way it is. For a man to write to women half his age and expect true love without the finances to support them both in a decent lifestyle, is just totally unrealistic. One day you will pass on and she will be old already and now alone with no-one to provide for her. Did you ever stop to consider that?
I'm sorry if you don't like what I'm saying, I'm just trying to be honest with you. I could have just left it and said nothing, but like I say I really don't like to see people get hurt. My advice would be, stay away from bar girls and ladies half your age, you'll never find common ground and deep understanding with a thirty year old girl from a totally different culture. Any lady telling you otherwise is a liar.
My best wishes to you Jeremy.
Oi
Dear Oi:
I read your message to Jeremy today and I must say I was totally dismayed at your very bitter comments on the Thai culture which I can only think were gained from the Walking Street side of life. I also wonder if you have sufficient command of the English language to really understand what has obviously been written for you and therefore what you have said to Jeremy.
Your comments are a sweeping damnation and appraisal of all Thai / foreigner relationships and in my view are totally wrong and based only on one situation i.e your own.
Your comments are an insult to normal people in Thailand of all nationalities and I only hope your life improves before you find yourself bound to a relationship based on greed, avarice and ultimate unhappiness.
Yours Sincerely,
Victor.

Some things never change! Who's right or wrong; but never mind because its both the reality and the challenge!