Please Don’t Treat Me Like A Second Class Person

We have hopes, dreams, likes and dislikes but yet it is hard for us to express our feelings, often in a way that you are accustomed to. And because of this, our boyfriend/ husbands don’t fully understand our emotions and our makeup. Many of us come from very humble beginnings and our dreams and desires are of a very simple nature. We can’t compete with your western intelligence and will never try to undermine you. We only hope that you will be a good husband/boyfriend, and if there are children in our relationship you will honor us by providing security for us. Sometimes it is hard for you to understand our commitment to our families. Please remember, that from the time we are small children we are taught to honor and support our families, as we get older. Thailand, (not like your country) has virtually no financial help for our families as they get older. And, because of this, many of us have to take jobs that we would not ordinarily take. Put yourself in our place, what would you do if the roles were reversed? Another thing, we have fewer options to make a satisfactory living to support our families. Even though our standards of living are much less than in your country, we still are not compensated to the extent that we need to help our families out. That’s why our dreams and hopes are  to meet a nice man, someone that is kind, and that will take care of us and our families. But, because of this arrangement and the bitterness that it causes, some of our husbands and boyfriends treat us like dirt. They use and abuse us as sex objects or toys and discard us when they are tired of us. Yes, many of us go to bed with tears in our eyes and hope that things will get better. IT is hard for us to accept this type of behavior but because of our family obligations, we have to stay with hopes that things will change for the better.

Yes, there are many good and decent men that are married to Thai ladies. I personally know several ladies that have great relationships with their husbands/boyfriends. When their partners go out, they take their partner with them. When they meet their buddies, they make sure that their partners are treated with respect and that the foul language is kept to a minimum. If they meet new people, they always introduce them as their wife or girlfriend.

As for me, I have a great husband and he is such a loving father to our daughter. As my husband often says: “We are a team and a team always stays together.”  We pray together, go to Christian meetings together and do things as ordinary couples do in other countries. He respects me as a person and because of this; I have so much love and admiration for him. I couldn’t ask for a better person. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH!

I hope I have said some things that will help you to understand Thai ladies more and perhaps; put the love in your relationship that perhaps is lacking. Also, the relationship will need “love” to survive.

Always remember, the majority of Thai ladies will stick with you, no matter what. But, please always treat them with respect and:  “Please Don’t Treat Them like a Second Class Person!”