My Thai girlfriend

Therefore, I have to replace her duty on providing relationship advices for all readers. Many readers must now wonder if I can handle. Don‘t forget that I am Aunt Chanchiras Daughter and has been following around her for over 29 years now. She taught me so many things in dealing with relationship, which might happen to me someday in the future, and I still waiting for it. I wish it to happen soon as I am now getting tired waiting for something unpredictable. Only God could help, a friend sitting beside me said.

Well, let us see the relationship questions this issue.

Sender: Henry C Johnston

Dear Aunt Chanchira,

First, I would like to greet you as Thais do “Sawadee”. I am Sandy and have been living here in Pattaya for almost 10 years now. I once was in love with the most beautiful girl in Pattaya (I assume). She was only 20 years old from a province in Northeast Thailand.

Unfortunately, however, I met her when she was working as a waitress in a small bar along Jomtien beach just 15 meters from Jomtien Police Box. I was immediately flirted at her stunning looks, beautiful face and slim figure.

However, just skip the part of I have tried to do everything to have her stayed with me, which finally I succeeded. Things seemed to be smooth at the beginning. The dark side of relationship first started on the second year. She has many times asked me for money to pay for the hospital bill as she said her father was in bad shape and getting treatment in the hospital.

I, actually, had no problems at all and instantly gave her what she asked for at least 3 or 4 times which was acceptable because she got the amount of money she requested. Sometime afterward, many of her relatives seemed to getting sick and needed to be treated at the hospital.

I, again, was asked for money to pay for her relatives’ hospital bills. It was a major problem for both of us because I was unable to take care of many hospital bills for people whom I had never met at all.

We finally split up and she shouted at me loudly in Thai, which I have never forgotten that sound “Khi Neaw”.

I was back to being single and am now afraid to start another relationship with another Thai woman. Could you please educate me on how Thai family treats one another as well as their relatives?

In addition, another question, what does Thai word “Khi Neaw” she shouted at me on the last day means? Oh!

The last one, do you really expect what she told me about her relatives getting sick so often (at least each a month) is true?

Thank you very much Auntie,

Henry Higgins

Dear Henry,

First, I am sorry for your unlucky relationship. In answer to your first question: how do Thais treat one another and family? Well, let me tell you about Thai family. Most of them have been raised closely as a big family. The way they have been taught was concentrated on paying back whatever they were given by others. This means they have to take care and support each other as much as possible until the last day of their lives. Therefore, do not be surprise when you are asked to do things for her parents, brothers or sisters who you might have never known or seen.

The next question is what a Thai word “Khi Neaw” means? Khi Neaw actually means “Stingy” in English. It is usually referred to someone spending money economically, or one who has hardly given something to someone in either money or things, and is usually used for the way people spending money.

And the last question if I think the situation of her relatives getting sick many times is real, my answer is I don’t think so. I do not think her relatives would happen to be getting sick as often as that. I would say that it is a tricky way to get the money out of your pocket and into hers.

Anyway, I would suggest you to go ahead and start dating again with anyone you are into, but you need to be careful because the current situation forces many people to do whatever they have to for money. Any problems occur in the future, I will be more than happy to supervise and giving you a hand.

Chanchiras Daughter