Thai Lady who has a bi-sexual husband

Since I have been pregnant, my husband seems to always go out with his friend every night and come home about 2 am. When I try to call his mobile phone, it is always switched off and I cannot speak to him. Also I never get to see his friends. I always used to do his washing but now he does it himself when he gets home; and gets angry when I try to help him do it. Also, he doesn’t show any affection towards me anymore and he gets angry when I ask him where he has been. Last week, he came home very drunk and forgot to do his washing so I did it for him but I could smell some men’s after shave on his clothes. Then last night he came home so drunk, he fell asleep in the car-park, so I went out to see if he was ok, and he was asleep and wearing woman’s make up and got angry again when I question him. He said he was at a fancy dress party. I am starting to worry my husband possibly being bi-sexual and that he has fallen in love with a guy and has forgotten about me. What do you think, Aunt Chanchira’s Daughter?

Well, poor Lek.

This is a tricky one. Sometimes when a woman gets pregnant, the man is no longer sexually attracted to his wife as she doesn’t look her best and can put on a lot of weight. Also, he feels that the woman or his wife starts to complain too much about small things. Therefore, he doesn’t feel as affectionate as he was before. Especially with the first baby, men find it hard to cope with the situation if they have had no experience with this state of affairs before. He might also think that this is his last chance to have fun with his friends before settling down into family life. However, Lek, what is worrying me is the make up and the men’s after shave occurring on different nights. I couldn’t believe he was at a fancy dress party, but that doesn’t explain the after shave the week before and why he insists on doing his own washing. In my experience, this is always a clue to a cheating man. Often gay men hide their homosexuality from their families and friends and maybe he is bi-sexual and now that he has told his family he is having a baby, he doesn’t have to worry that they think he is gay.

My advice to you is to wait and see if he becomes affectionate towards you after the baby has been born and your body is back in shape unless you catch him with a man. Usually I would say leave him now but you have worry about your child, so you must give him the benefit of the doubt in the situation.